“I’ve got my faults, but living in the past isn’t one of them. There’s no future in it”. Sparky Anderson of the Detroit Tigers made that statement. There are a lot of “what if’s” in the mind of a small business owner, especially when the going gets tough. I’m reminded of several friends of mine, each of whom had bypass surgery within a week of each other. The first, took the mental part of his illness very hard; even though the surgery went well he refused to fully participate in his “rehabilitation process”. His only activity was playing solitaire on his computer and feeling sorry for himself. Watching television, any program, was his life. He waited for others to bring him food and exercise was out of the question. After eight months his wife could no longer care for him and moved him to a “care home” where he died 5 month later.
His counterpart, encouraged by his family, friends and business associates, participated full in his rehabilitation process and even challenged himself to work on his business from home. In three months he was back in the office and six months after his surgery he felt better than ever and his business was growing. I spent a lot of time with this man and asked him if he ever felt “down”. His answer surprised me; he said after the surgery he also was feeling sorry for himself but several things came to his rescue. The following are his reasons for picking himself up and succeeding.
- First and foremost, he told me was his faith and faith community. They showed up at the hospital as soon as he was able to receive visitors. He received several books with daily Scripture readings which, he said, changed his life. He shared how he felt , with this faith community, and they listened and supported him. Now, several years later, he still meets with this group every other week.
- The second, he shared, was his business support group. Seven owners, of other businesses, that helped run his business in his absence. To me, this action spoke volumes about the respect this man had and the true friendship his support group offered.
- The third was the positive attitude he developed and his willingness to only think and read about positive happenings.
- The fourth, was totally his own doing. When he left his rehabilitation center, he went back on his own time to share his story with others and to encourage them to persevere. He still makes it a point to visit and share his story once a month. I am sure he has touched the hearts and minds of many.
We are so blessed; if we have our health and a working mind; friends to talk to and live in a country where the opportunity is ours for the taking; then it is our responsibility to get up and get going.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
You are the only one who can use you ability. It is an awesome responsibility.
Have a great day!